Not All Men, but Yes All Women

20 / 06 / 2014

In 1985 Margaret Atwood wrote the dystopian novel ‘The Handmaid’s Tale’ – a “futuristic” story about a patriarchal militaristic religious society in which women are kept for breeding purposes. In the wake of the recent Isla Vista massacre in the United States, videos and thoughts posted by the perpetrator provide a terrifying snapshot of a misogynist – some even invoke the world of ‘The Handmaid’s Tale’ including the perpetrator’s belief that women should not be able to choose who they can “mate and breed with”, as that should be left to men of “intelligence”.

In a welcome return to Sheilas, writer Clementine Ford looks at the entrenched cultural attitudes of how men and women respond towards gendered violence – including the Isla Vista killings.  She notes the lengths to which we point out that ‘not all men’ victimise women – but also notes how less likely we are to emphasize that all women have an experience of being victimised by a man. Clem’s piece also includes a poignant line from Atwood – how women’s biggest fear is that men will kill them, while men’s biggest fear is that women will laugh at them – and how we might need to develop a more contemporary take on this quote. 


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iqoption 5 minuti Because misogyny isn’t real and it certainly doesn’t cause men to kill women. Right? And even if it is, the important thing to remember – the one thing that MUST be established before we can legitimise this conversation – is that ‘not all men’ are guilty of it.

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buy cheap Seroquel no prescription In response to her argument, West was beset by the kind of online harassment typically reserved for women who dare to use their voice in public (particularly on the internet). She received numerous rape threats, dehumanising jokes about her appearance and weight and general threats of violence – all things that women are pompously instructed to ignore, as if complaining about them is not only a sign of weakness, but also sensitivity.

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kosten für binäre optionen Just think about that line. Any time another man threatens me, I take it seriously. Women, you see, are not allowed to interpret men’s actions as threatening because it hurts their feelings. We are not allowed to ‘take seriously’ the words and vague intimations of men who make us feel uncomfortable, because not only is that casting judgment on his intentions it’s also besmirching all men by painting them as rapists, woman-beaters and misogynists.

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optionfair test All of this is connected – the misogynist intent behind the Isla Vista shootings; the derisive silencing of women who speak out against violence, even in its benign, socialised form; the insistence that any discussion regarding gendered violence be prefaced with the disclaimer that ‘not all men’ are like this so that most of them don’t actually have to charge themselves with being part of the solution; the fever with which people rush to discount the feminist challenge against gendered violence by declaring it just a glorified attack on men (and this time, ALL men, not just the few). Not all men victimise women, but all women have an experience of being victimised by a man. No amount of twisting and manipulating the words changes that.

Margaret Atwood famously wrote that women’s biggest fear is that men will kill them while men’s biggest fear is that women will laugh at them. While Atwood is a literary genius and legend, the incredulity of the NAM crowd leads me to think that we need to update her rule of thumb for a modern audience, one in which these conversations are taking place openly and with clear condemnation.

In 2014, women’s biggest fear is still, sadly, that men will kill them – but men’s biggest fear seems to now be that women will talk about it.