Ending the Quarantine of Depression

21 / 08 / 2014

Amy Gray is a regular contributor to Sheilas and writes for a number of other publications. In this ‘First Person’ piece, she discloses her own battles with depression and suicide in the spirit of ending society’s ‘quarantine’ around one of the biggest health issues we face: mental health. Following the untimely death of comedian and actor Robin Williams, Amy argues it is time to end that quarantine. Thank you Amy, for sharing your story.

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handeln mit optionen This piece first appeared in the **King’s Tribune. Reprinted with permission.


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strategia opzioni binarie 30 secondi One of my earlier memories was sitting on my mother’s lap and being asked to smile for the camera. Though the picture today merely shows a pixie-headed pouter, what I remember most is what I was feeling when the photo was taken – that there was a hole inside my chest slowly absorbing all joy, or indeed any emotion, I could feel. I was around three years old at the time.

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binary option india I’m sharing this now because we don’t talk about the personal experience of depression enough, or dismiss it as a 14 year old’s muddled Tumblr rants. Using my story is important, not only to combat the shame associated with mental illness, but also to demonstrate that no depression is alike. It is an illness that afflicts and contaminates each brain differently.

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this i believe essays by students Yet, we seem to give depressed people the same reactions and advice before listening. As valid as the advice is to reach out and seek help, it is just as crucial we help people understand how to listen or respond. No amount of #RUOK? will help if we don’t listen to their answer.

manuale trading email People with depression have heard it all before. “But was it a serious attempt?” they ask, “or was it was just a cry for help?”, as though we have the luxury of extra tears. “If only….” they daydream, unaware of our reality, before concluding “suicide is the ultimate act of selfishness, a way out for the weak or betrayal to the living”.

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Then there are the people closest to you who will either lose interest after any more than three conversations on the topic or offer their own quick fix solutions – because apparently one good experience is all you need to turn your life around. I have been told to lose weight (because it will find the ultimate antidepressant: a boyfriend), wear more dresses, just cheer up, go for a walk, had an eyebrow wax forced on me, go out more, go out less, be all about baths, just stop focusing on sadness, listen to upbeat music, take vitamins and – in one spectacular experience – had a spiritualist perform an impromptu exorcism to rid me of alien spirits.

Talk to someone? Sometimes there’s no point talking if these are the only people to talk to.

Despite the excellent progress made by committed organisations, there is still a disconnect between depressed people and the communities imprisoning them. People report feeling isolated when battling depression and yet so often many of us are responsible for actually isolating them further, whether it is by rejecting their request for help or rejecting them socially, professionally and medically.

Perhaps the isolation can be traced to how we care for people with depression. Our model of care when it comes to depression is one of complete social, therapeutic and professional quarantine. We tell them to reach out, only to draw the curtains around them to hide them from view.

We must come to the point when we realise we cannot quarantine depression or suicide. We must drag it out, let it air and acknowledge it as not a transient visitor but a persistent house guest for many.

Over the next few days, if not weeks, people will share their stories of depression or suicide. These are not cynical grabs at a news cycle or attempt to hitch their wagon to a falling, broken star. They are accounts that have broken free from the enclosing screen of privacy.

End the quarantine. We need to talk about the global rise of suicide rates. We need to examine if our culture of isolating the ill is really the best way to provide care.

But most of all we need to listen.

 


If you are in trouble and need some help, there are many places you can find it.

Your GP can help you find a therapist experienced in dealing with your particular issues and help you with a mental health care plan so medicare will cover 10 sessions for you with the registered therapist of your choice. If you can, it might help to ask around online or people you know who have found a good therapist. Not all of them are good and not all of them will be a good fit for everyone, it”s ok to walk away from one who is not helpful and try again to find one who is.

Some links that might be of use:

Some reddit depression posts are very good for people who aren’t able  to speak out loud about what they’re feeling.

Beyond Blue is a useful starting place for facts and symptoms.

Dnet is an online support site with information, research, links and an online chat room.


 

**This article first appeared in print in the King’s Tribune, an online magazine covering politics, media and culture. For readers who support independent media, check it out and better yet, subscribe. Republished with permission from both the author Amy Gray and King’s Tribune Editor Jane Gilmore.


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