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Garner Book Fuels Filicide Myths
22 / 11 / 2014
‘The House of Grief’, Helen Garner’s latest book, examines the trial of Robert Farquharson, who was convicted of killing his three sons after driving them into a dam on the evening of Father’s Day in 2005. Garner is, unquestionably, a talented writer, but, as the Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria’s Mandy McKenzie writes, this book does little in the way of analysis of domestic homicides and filicides. Disappointingly, she adds, it just adds fuel to perpetuating common misconceptions and reporting on such tragic events.
With permission, we reproduce this article from DVRCV’s Advocate magazine, which we encourage readers to subscribe to, here.
By Mandy McKenzie
‘Once there was a hard-working bloke who lived in a small Victorian country town with his wife and their three young sons.’
So begins Helen Garner’s new book, This House of Grief, her account of the two murder trials and subsequentappeals of Robert Farquharson, convicted of murdering his three sons by driving them into a dam where theydrowned in September 2005.
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Though Garner immerses herself in imagining Farquharson’s psychological struggles, she seems wary of Cindy Gambino and keeps her at a distance. Initially Gambino supported Farquharson, but by his second trial she believed he was guilty. Garner acknowledges Gambino as a grieving mother and describes her courtroom testimonies, but offers little reflection on them.
Cindy Gambino tells the court that during their marriage her husband was like a ‘fourth child’—he believed it was her role to do all the housework and caring for the children. She says Farquharson was always unhappy, always complaining, and was ‘very protective, very possessive’.
He would often ’grab her by her private parts’ while she was trying to do the housework, and he regularly tormented their sons by getting into play fights with them and would ‘stir them up till they got angry and lashed out at him’.
Gambino also recalls that once, after their separation, he had pushed her hard up against a wall. She locked herself in the bedroom and called the police. He later apologised.
Gambino’s testimony describes a pattern of passive-aggressive behaviour by Farquharson. She tells the court that his refusal to let her visit him in prison to discuss what happened to their children was what led her to finally believe he had meant to kill their children.
However, Garner doesn’t see Gambino’s change of mind as being driven by logic, but portrays it as a typically emotional feminine response, describing it as a ‘deeply feminine shift … inspired not by reason but by wifely grievance and the bitter desire to settle a score’.
Reviewers of this book have praised Garner’s ‘unflinching’ writing (David Marr, The Monthly) and her ability to record harrowing scenes ‘without restraint or censorship’ (Catherine Mah, The Guardian). However, parts of this account would have benefited from Garner’s restraint. For example, her speculation about what the children did in their last moments is unnecessary and distressing to read. It’s also disturbing that Garner seems entirely undeterred by the fact that her account of this story will cause pain to Gambino and her family.1
In the book’s final paragraph, Garner recalls her visit to the children’s gravesite. She imagines the ‘possessive rage’ of the children’s family at her appropriation of their story: ‘You never knew them. You never even saw them. How dare you talk about your ‘grief’?’ But, as her final conclusion, she defends her right to tell this tale: ‘Every stranger grieves for them. Every stranger’s heart is broken. The children’s fate is our legitimate concern. They are ours to mourn. They belong to all of us now.’
It is legitimate to try to comprehend why these killings occurred, but this account does little to further our understanding.
Yes, Farquharson may have been depressed and devastated by the divorce—but why would this lead him to feel justified in murdering his children as ‘pay back’ towards his ex-wife? Why are domestic homicides most often perpetrated by men—and why do these typically occur in relation to separation?
What insights could be gained from the perspective of Farquharson’s ex-wife, who was the target of his actions? And, what can be done to prevent the deaths of children in the context of parental separation?
This House of Grief provides no answers to these questions. At the end of her book, Garner returns us to imagining Farquharson’s mental state on that fateful Father’s Day in Geelong.
Despite all the evidence Garner has heard over eight years of sitting through the trials and appeals, she still cannot characterise Farquharson as a bitter ex-husband who had recently told a friend he intended to pay his ex-wife back ‘big time’. Instead, she pictures him as the ‘sad father’ sitting with his boys in the ‘shit car’, ‘the only home he has to offer them’.
Men who murder their partners or their children often see themselves as victims who have been unfairly treated by ex-wives or the family court. Underlying this is a sense of masculine entitlement, and a self-righteous beliefthat their ex-partner deserves to be punished for causing their suffering.
This House of Grief only perpetuates the idea that these men are victims, enabling them to excuse the violence they perpetrate.
1 Though Garner had several brief conversations with Gambino’s parents when writing this book, she did not speak directly to Cindy Gambino
Mandy McKenzie is a research officer at DVRCV, currently working on a two-year research project with Monash University investigating domestic homicide, funded by the Legal Services Board. This project follows an initial grant from the Victorian Women’s Benevolent Trust (The VWT’s Grants program – the VWT publishes Sheilas) to DVRCV and Monash University – to undertake a follow up report on the groundbreaking early 90’s publication ‘Blood on Whose Hands?’ (the first publication of its kind examining domestic homicides in Victoria) in light of the 2005 homicide law reforms.